A few weeks ago, I met up with a close friend from the music industry who has been living alone for some time. As we chatted, I could sense that something was off – I could hear it in her voice and feel it in her energy. When I asked her what was wrong she admitted she was feeling drained, stuck in a cycle of stagnant energy and self-doubt. I offered to share some coaching tools to help her shift into a more empowering mindset, and she agreed.
A Simple Tool for Transformation
I introduced her to a simple yet powerful tool from my signature program—a practice that, when done consistently, can have a profound impact.
The Gratitude Shift
“Starting tonight, write down five things you’re grateful for—every single night”.
She gave me that skeptical look. The How is this going to fix anything? kind of look. And I get it. When life feels heavy, gratitude can seem almost pointless.
But gratitude isn’t about ignoring what’s wrong or pretending everything is perfect. It’s about shifting your focus—away from what feels overwhelming and toward the quiet, steady moments of good. And the more we notice the good, the more of it we begin to find. That’s when everything starts to change.
Getting to the Root of It
As we talked, she realized her feelings weren’t just about her current struggles—they were deeply rooted in past disappointments that had shaped how she saw herself. To help clarify, I shared a simple analogy about two trees:
“Imagine two trees,” I said. “One has weak, unhealthy roots, struggling to survive even with plenty of sun and rain. The other has deep, strong roots, thriving with health and **vitality.”
I paused, letting the image sink in before continuing. “We’re like those trees. If our roots—our beliefs and thoughts—aren’t nurtured, we remain stuck, no matter what’s happening around us. But when we nourish them with self-love, gratitude, and empowering beliefs, we begin to thrive.”
She fell silent for a moment, then quietly said, “I think my roots have been unhealthy for a long time.”
I said, “The great thing about unhealthy roots is that you have the power to help them grow strong again.”
That night, she made a powerful decision to begin her gratitude list. It felt strange and uncomfortable at first, but she was open to it. And that openness is where real transformation starts.
As the days went by, she started noticing things she had previously overlooked—the warmth of a cup of coffee, a friend’s kind gesture.
I encouraged her to shift her mindset. Instead of asking, “Why me?” I suggested she ask, “What can I learn from this?” Before long, she went from feeling powerless to recognizing her own strengths.
A few weeks later, I received this message: “I feel lighter, and I’m finally getting back to myself.” Her circumstances hadn’t changed, but she had. She went from feeling like a victim to recognizing she could create her own experience.
If you’re ready to shift from feeling stuck to feeling creative, confident, and vibrant, my Signature Coaching Program, The Confident Musician, can help! For only £197 per month for three months, you’ll get 12 weeks of coaching valued at £1,997.
